I do admit that there have been times in my life when I have been a little too much of a people pleaser. To my own detriment. Generally, I think that can be a good attribute, as long as you don't lose yourself in it. Or determine your own self worth based on your ability to please others. I am a little affected when I feel like I have done something to hurt, or offend, or turn off another person, because, yes, I like that I am a person that others generally like. So I am habitually diplomatic and don't always understand why others aren't (as I am sure they don't get me sometimes as well). But that does not mean I am a doormat. I am fully aware of my shortcomings, and am sure there are some that I have yet to realize, but that is what life is for. Continual progression. I am a little sensitive when it comes to disputes involving the people that I love most. Because I am a peace maker. I let it get to me more than I should. Even when those disputes are generally good natured disagreements. I like people to get along. I am a nerd that way.
So, I was a little dismayed this weekend when I got called on facebook for posting too much for my own self validation. Amused and a little bit bothered. There I was enjoying my first anniversary with a lazy day. Joel was making us a roasted chicken with all kinds of yummy roasted vegetables and purple potatoes and I was playing with my iphone. Taking pictures of my monster bruise on my knee, anniversary flowers, and cool card that I found for Joel and posting them on the facebook. Just for kicks and giggles. Moments later, an old mission buddy proclaimed on the same networking site that it was time to hide people's pictures because his personal philosophy is:
If you are bored, than you shouldn't be on the internet.
There are are a couple things that bothered me about this. Or rather, found amusing. Like, why is anyone ever on facebook? I think boredom is pretty near the top of the list. And why do you care so much about my random photos that you can ignore?
Granted, it could have been purely coincidental, but me, thinking I was funny and knowing him and that it was probably aimed at me, tried to make a light hearted comment that he could feel free to hide my silly pictures (smiley face to make sure it didn't come off as rude and bitter). And well, maybe I should have left it alone.
Because it resulted in this: